Understanding and Loving Your Child Who Smokes Pot by Stephen Arterburn
Author:Stephen Arterburn
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Salem Books
Published: 2021-08-03T00:00:00+00:00
CHAPTER 9 Implementing Family Policy
One couple, who weâll call Jan and Pete, discovered marijuana in their sonâs bedroom a few weeks after he had graduated from college and moved back home. After discussing their concerns and making their expectations clear, Jan and Pete let Paul know he was welcome to continue living in their home as long as he agreed to refrain from using marijuana. The plan they outlined was clear: If signs suggested Paul was using marijuana or spending time with those who did, he would have six weeks to make other living arrangements. Specifically, he would need to secure a job and an apartment. At the end of those six weeks, he was no longer welcome to live in their home.
When Paul came home one Saturday night reeking of smoke, he tried to skirt past his parents, who were reading in the living room. When they invited him in to chat, they both smelled marijuana.
âSon, we made our expectations clear, and you disregarded them,â Pete said. âToday is May 18, so by July 1, youâll need to be living someplace else.â
Paulâs eyes widened in disbelief.
âBut Dadââ he protested.
Calmly, without anger or anxiety, Pete simply restated the consequence. âBecause of your choice, youâll not be living here after June 30.â
Hearing the conviction in his fatherâs voice, Paul left the room in a huff.
Turning toward his wife, Pete saw his wifeâs face racked with pain.
âHoney,â she began, âI know we said this would happen, but I really donât think he can do it. I donât think he can get a job or an apartment on his own.â
Her voice cracked as she fought back tears.
âWeâre here if he needs help with an application or reference. But this is his choice, and heâs going to live with the consequences.â
Though grieved, Jan knew her husband was right.
Her concerns were justified. When six weeks had passed, Paul hadnât done the work to find an apartment and only had a part-time job as a waiter. When his parents remained committed to the plan theyâd outlined, Paul angrily packed a few bags and left the house. He texted a friend who picked him up and let him stay at his familyâs home. When that became untenable, Paul continued to couch surf between his friendsâ homes.
Four months later, Paul begged his parents to let him come back and live at home, swearing that he wouldnât use marijuana. Heâd gotten a full-time job at an upscale restaurant and was saving money to get an apartment with a friend. Sensing his sincerity, Pete and Jan told Paul that if heâd like to come home, there would be certain expectationsâincluding not using marijuanaâand theyâd all sign a contract agreeing to them.
That did the trick. Paul moved back inâand when he left his parentsâ home five months later to move into an apartment, it was his own choice.
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